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Vic·tim
- A living being sacrificed to a deity or in the performance of a religious rite
- One that is acted on and usually adversely affected by a force or agent
- One that is injured, destroyed, or sacrificed under any of various conditions
- One that is subjected to oppression, hardship, or mistreatment
- One that is tricked or duped
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- A living being sacrificed to a deity or in the performance of a religious rite
- To remain alive or in existence, to live on
- To continue to function or prospertransitive
- To remain alive after the death of another
- To continue to exist or live after
- To continue to function or prosper despite
- To withstand
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- Characterized by wrong or improper use or action, corrupt
- Using harsh insulting language
- Physically injurious
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- To check, test, or verify by evidence or experiments
- To exercise restraining or directing influence over, regulate, to have power over, rule
- To reduce the incidence or severity
>> http://www.merriam-webster.com/dictionary/control"The Organizer" Yellow Personalities
Written by David A Sokolik | April 28, 2010
What Was Found From This Case Study Page 1
The first interviewee I discovered had deep trust issues. She tried to control these issues through the meticulous documentation of details pertaining to the honesty of the individuals in her life. I found it was no wonder she couldn't trust anyone, especially when you have documented proof of every dishonest action.
There is a difference between a victim and a survivor, a survivor most likely has evolved from their experience and shows no signs of having ever been a victim. They has received the support they needed to move on and has taken the necessary changes to live their lives to the fullest. However, a victim has not, will not, or doesn't know how to get pass the experience.
In this case there men in her life lied to her, forcing her to document everything from that person.
In other experiences a woman may feel the pressures of a sexual abusive relationship. If we can't get past these experiences we will have a harder time achieving a positive attitude on tomorrow and the happiness that will come. If we close our emotions to the world we will live in a dark box, which was created to shield our eyes from the horrors of the world, that box will also shields us from the sun, the people who love us, and the hope that we can move on.
"Women who have been abused don't necessarily get over everything they have gone through in the past. Some of the residue still remains. She may have some strange behaviors that tend to pop up every now and then. If he robbed her, she is possessive about her belongings. If he raped her, then she may have sexual problems. If he choked or smothered her, she may have problems sleeping at night or you touching, staring, or standing over her while she sleeps. If he lied about his whereabouts a lot, then she will be bothered when you don't say where you are going and how long you will be gone. If he cheated, then she won't trust you when you say, "...that woman is just a friend." If he kept her from seeing or talking to family or friends."
Dating a Victim of Domestic Violence? What You Should Know and How You Can Help April 15, 2010Another serious issue may be found in becoming an abuser yourself by creating a harsh environment for your mate and your children. If the people closest to you are innocent, having never raise a hand, or raised a voice to you they are the ones who may be suffering now.
Controlling your live is a vital step in dealing with problems, but if the control becomes an obsession it can create a prison just as dangerous to ourselves and others as the offence that put you in this state in the first place.
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